Suddenly witnessing a time when stepping out of the house feels claustrophobic and staying at home gives you more space around. It’s quite amusing, that if you imagine yourself alone in a desert your power of thinking sane, can get a hit but at the same time, if you are constantly surrounded by people, the exact same insanity can be experienced and you will yearn for some space.
Excess of everything has lead to this situation. People, their greeds more needs, buildings, automobiles, shops, materials and list goes on.
Balance is the key.
There are so many questions which come to surface when one thinks about daily practical life we are dealing with.
It’s not uncommon to see sub groups being formed in a place where a bunch of people come together, be it office, gym, kitty parties, family gatherings, society groups etc. There are undercurrents of judgement, analysis, opinions and a huge portion of diplomacy and hypocrisy can also be added into the mix.
Now, flash back and think of a moment where say all these people who gather together were babies and their parents are collectively enjoying a get together with all of them. No judgement, no analysis, no opinions, just pure love. They all have smiles looking at all these babies together. They are enjoying the baby talks. Enjoying their innocent features. The babies are giggling and the whole atmosphere is happy and content and blissful!
Woosh!!! As adults it all vanishes…
Something which was effortless years back, now has to be practiced and applied in day to day life. Being chill! 😉
We the People, are such an incredible thing. Full of mysteries.
So where is the turning point where a child starts loosing the chillness and starts worrying?
There can be many turning points viz milestones of educational timeline. Say grade 10th exams. Grade 12th. A child is subjected to competetion, comparisons and lots of pressure to perform well so that he can make a good living. Parents who are already struggling with their own lives, can’t see much.. and feel their child must prepare better than them, so that his life is better.
Second turning point is definitely when you are stepping into a new phase, making new connections, yes Marriage. This is a major turning point for almost everyone.
Till 25 years (average) you have been used to living in a particular environment, with certain people, with certain routine and within a day it just changes completely.
Each one of us have stories of how we felt as a Husband and Wife the very next day of the D-Day. Whether you know each other for long or have been married via arranged marriage, you do get anxiety due to the new Labels.
We get such a drastic label once earlier in life as well, when we get Siblings. Suddenly the life changes for the elder one, as everyone who has been pampering the child, now tells him/her to be responsible.
Every machine gets a manual on how to operate it but this machine called Man/Woman functions on trial and error.
The systems are in place, but the experienced one will never help the one who would be going through a transition understand what’s in store.
There is a no course in school or university which one can take to understand what a daily life is. What are things one must do after you wake up to when you sleep.
Each family have their own routine, yet we celebrate that one day of transition like a scene from Bollywood and Hollywood who have created a rosy picture and young minds are fed those visuals when actually the illusion breaks as you step into the new life slowly.
There are hardly any common things between the two families’ daily living pattern and that does take a while for our brains to adjust to. The reason being, no prior guidance. It’s like swimming in an unknown lake that too in dark.
Is ‘Sansar’ just this? Each decade is going thought the same cycle. Government run systems, struggle between dreams and running a family, fulfilling expectations of labels and trying to catch up some sleep, some entertainment, some laughter and some peace?
I think each house must be a school. Each family member must come and teach the bunch of kids as teachers once a week in each other’s house. Let them learn what eat, how they live. It will smoothen out many things for future. Let them see how each family is unique. Let different age groups learn together. Let there be love which becomes a habit. Let there be sharing and caring. Dynamics of a society needs some serious change. There is way too much stress, health issues, hatred among those innocent babies who are now grown up.Mentors are important. Be a mentor for the clean slates. Be the torch for them while they tread the dark tunnel.
As adults, people start getting stressed these days. But that’s not the natural way of living. Then we are asked to seek within us, unleash the powers. But we’re we thought to do that as kids? Well, can we not let the baby learn to be alone, be instrospective and listen to his inner powers. Can we not provide him/her an environment where they learn to be intuitive, aware of their inner powers? Imagine how the world would have been had we let that child listen to his inner guide, the mentor which is within him/her, let that child choose their paths without any fear, judgement or comparisons.
Life would have been much easier, much smoother.